A Canadian Military Wife’s Tribute To Her Combat-Soldier Husband

Recently I have befriended a military wife who shared a video she created while her husband served in Afghanistan.  She has already turned down offers to commercialize it. She said, “I did it when I had the feelings. I cannot go back and change it.”

As a result, she never wants this personal “memoir” exploited for any purpose, including propaganda, and has asked that I not release either her name or her husband’s.  “I only expressed what I felt and what my children taught me about dealing with our feelings while their Dad was deployed to Afghanistan.”

The story behind the video started one summer night in June 2006, after her husband had been deployed for five months.  “I had these words that kept running through my head. I couldn’t even watch TV. So I stopped and started typing. At the end of ten minutes, I had written a poem.”

She sent the poem to her husband to read. He was so touched by it he shared it. “I never signed my name to the poem. With no name,” she says, “I think that when other military wives/family/soldiers read the poem, they recognized their own thoughts put into words.”

Her words then took on a life of their own. When her husband returned in 2006, he brought back many pictures and videos. She saw the images that were running through her head as she wrote the words and developing the video grew as a natural progression of what she wrote. To end it, she decided her husband’s last letter to her from Afghanistan completed her tribute to all military wives and combat soldiers any time they face battle. As it happened, her husband was rotated to Afghanistan again in 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Here then is a military wife’s view of her homecoming vet. BONNIE


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3 Responses to A Canadian Military Wife’s Tribute To Her Combat-Soldier Husband

  1. Oh, Bonnie, this is the first time I viewed your site. Thank you for sharing this video, it squeezed my heart. I’m not Canadian, I live in California, but our vet’s and families laugh and love and cry as one. War goes on and we must remain strong. I started a blog in April 2011, Blog of a Vet’s Wife because I’ve written my memoir, Diary of a Vet’s Wife, Loving and living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I’m trying to get it published. My husband served in Vietnam. My heart is tender for our men who serve to keep their country and their families safe, and for the families willing to swallow the tears as they watch them leave. Thank you for writing this blog, I will be back often. Warmly yours, Nancy

    • Nancy, thank you for your heartfelt comments. Though you may not have your book published yet, If you would like to promote small portions of it to gain publishers’ interest — no more than two paragraphs — I would be happy to post a “teaser” for you and to set up a reciprocal link of yours on mine and mine on yours.


      • Oh, Bonnie, what an angel you are. Sorry I didn’t see this sooner. I’m still lacking techno-savy. Tonight I was checking my blog on Google and thought there was a mistake! It inferred that I was a Canadian wife, and I in no way wanted to disclaim Canada’s heros. I have empathy for “all” who are living with “this.” When I clicked on it I saw it was you.

        I’d love this arrangement, but unsure how to do it and don’t have time to go into it at the moment. I’m heading off to bible study tonight. I kind-of over-did-it on classes this fall. Good thing they don’t list any between midnight and 6am! Tomorrow is writing/publishing class in Santa Barbara in the AM, and public speaking class at night. Friday morning I work, then have counseling class 7-10 pm and all day Sat. Last class is once a month for 3 months. After 30 hrs I’ll have NANC certification. Oh, I also write a blog once a week 🙂

        Would you mind if we discuss this via email instead of public? My email is onhrway@earthlink.net. And please know I’ll reply as soon as humanly possible.

        Forgot to mention, I’ll be visiting the “Traveling Wall” a week from tomorrow. This is a replica of the Vietnam Wall in Washington. It travels from state to state, and will be in Santa Barbara the day I drive “95.5 miles one way” to class 🙂 I’m excited and anxious because I don’t know how this will affect me. I will be journaling the experience and plan to blog about it soon after.
        Warmest regards,

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