I just read a very important post by a former mountie and veteran that I think we all need to think about because so many of our veterans from the Armed Forces, RCMP and emergency response personnel have fallen into emotional pits and they don’t know how to crawl back out on their own. Taking tough love measures to force them to see how they are abandoning the ones they love and cherish may boomerang and deepen the very depression and sense of helplessness their loved ones are trying desperately to help them recognize: THEY CAN’T HEAL ALONE. THEY NEED HELP.
One young military wife has taped her son expressing how he feels abandoned by his father who is suffering with PTSD.
“I was home alone with one of my sons washing dishes. My son and I were having a good time talking when out of the blue I heard him say: I wish I could go back in time and make it that Dad‘s friends and commrades weren’t killed and then, maybe if I did that, Dad’s heart wouldn’t be so broken and he would pay attention to us again.
“I was stunned!!! I know our children miss the attention their Dad use to give them before the effects of what he went through and lived through during two heavy combat tours started to slowly steal his soul away from our family!
“We as a family have tried talking to ‘Dad,’ asking him to get help — Please, stop playing 24/7 on the computer. It hurts living with a person and being completely ignored. We rather ‘Dad’ move out then we won’t be so hurt being in the same house as you knowing we are all being ignored. There is no emergecey big enough to even get ‘Dad’ off the computer. Company comes over, ‘Dad’ ignores them. If we do get ‘Dad’ away from the computer, you know he is counting down the secs until he can get back to his computer game!
“We as a family are not willing to lose whatever is left of ‘Dad.’ We know he has changed and will never be who he was….but who is to say, with help, he can’t be or get better!! Afghanistan has stolen many many people’s souls, people’s very life. What we are not ready to do is let Afghanistan steal what’s left of our ‘Dad.'”
Let’s hope hearing the words of his child will help him “see” he needs to reach out for professional intervention. And this young wife would appreciate hearing advice from other wives who have dealt with this problem or vets who have gone through it and can give her insight on how to reach her husband. But, what this former mountie warns us about, is even more alarming for wives and families like this one of a vet suffering with PTSD. Now to Eric Rebiere’s comments. BONNIE
|11:48 a.m., Nov. 3|
This is a prediction that will come to pass because I have seen this happen before. I forgot to mention in my last email about Conservative expenditures. I forgot Harper wants lots of mega prisons.
Once upon a time, when I was a Drug enforcement officer, there was this bad time called a recession. My unit executed a search warrant on an unemployed plumber who had a marijuana-grow operation in his basement. One of many we had dealt with that year. I spoke to the accused dude, who really was a nice guy — he had a family a mortgage to pay and no employment because no one was building homes. The dude looked me in the eye and said, “I’m a plumber and a good one. I would not have done this if I had work. I needed to feed my family and keep a roof over their heads.”
What can you say to a hurting human being like this? Well, he got as much of a break as I could give him.
The point here is that if the Harper Government continues to play hard ball through the VRAB with legitimate injured veterans who end up like the plumber, on the streets or close to it, you can expect normal law abiding injured Vets to break the law just to survive because the $250,000 lump-sum payment as implemented under the New Veterans Charter has been self-medicated away and spent on things that will not last. For example, a young vet may buy a brand new 4×4 loaded truck, but has no money left to pay for his insurance and gas, not to mention rent for a place to live.
So, like the plumber I talked about, desperate times mean desperate acts. So, Mr. Harper’s new mega jails are coming at a good time and they are going to get packed pretty quick with people who will include growing numbers of disabled Veterans left to their own devices.
Maybe the increase of expensive jails is part of Harper’s plan to deal with the huge fall out that will take place if he does not sit back and smell the coffee!
Like the Clouds of War seen on this country’s horizon so many times with the injured returning home, broken, needing support from their country, this time there will be injured veterans abandoned by the Government of Canada and forced to survive in ways they would not normally choose to do.
They will break the law and end up in one of the new timely mega prisons that is supposed to help keep society safer. And why? Because if Mr. Harper and his Conservative Reform Party did not have the sense or the will to keep the faith with this country’s injured veterans in the first place.
Families will be torn apart. There will be, of course, the ultimate act of desperation, which is suicide. I hope that this present government can develop a conscience. And they had better start right now because they will be bearing the brunt of their short-sighted vision.
Eric Rebiere (Former Cst. RCMP 37515 and Former CAF Veteran)